Halloween in Islam
As a Muslim, I have been raised to believe that virtually all Halloween traditions are based from ancient pagan culture or Christianity. From an Islamic point of view, they are all forms of idolatry. Muslim celebrations should be ones that honor and uphold the Islamic faith and beliefs. So, when my little ones asked me about their upcoming costumes for school on Halloween Day, I was a bit surprised the school would acknowledge such a day in a Muslim country. Upon further inquiry, I was informed that the celebration was not on Halloween day after all, nor was there any celebratory events.
However, there was in fact a “character day,” where students can dress up in their favorite character costume. I explained to my little ones about the mix-up in terminology, yet they were inquisitive about the reasoning behind not celebrating Halloween. I was conflicted on how to actually help them understand. Will my simple answer of “no” be enough to satisfy their continued questions? After all, I knew the reason behind them was simply the joy of putting on a costume and getting candy in return.
Furthermore, I decided to try a different approach; a more productive and constructive way to empower knowledge to my little ones. Below are a few ideas about discussing Halloween with your Muslim family.
Gather the Facts:
The more information you have on any subject the more secure you will be on your stance regarding it. Be aware that your little one needs to know why they are different from their peers (if that is the case). Their confidence and understanding about Islamic principles are very important. The following are two resources about the history of Halloween.
https://www.history.com/topics/halloween
A United Front:
Discuss with your spouse about any concerns, ideas or approaches you have. It’s important you both agree about the family’s position regarding Halloween. Once you have a common understanding, call a family meeting with your little ones.
Be Compassionate:
When you introduce the topic to your little ones, ask them if their friends, from school, are celebrating and what they’re planning to do. Be sure to carefully listen to their answers, without cutting them off. Allow them to individually have the floor to express their feelings and thoughts. Show them that you care about their feelings and where they are coming from.
Reality Check:
Your little ones will most definitely know other Muslim families who take a different approach regarding Halloween (and other non-Muslim holidays) than yours, so it’s essential to remind them that each family is responsible for their own choices. Just because another Muslim family is doing something does not mean we should too. Remind your little ones to be confident in their choices and to never judge what others are doing.
Being Proud of their Religion:
It’s important to emphasize to your little ones that not celebrating Halloween does not mean they can’t have non-Muslims friends. Explain to them all the wonderful things about Islam and how we safe guard ourselves from things that contradict Islamic principles.
Organize a Fun Gathering:
Encourage your little ones to invite other like-minded friends for a fun gathering at home or invite them out for a fun activity such as bowling. This is especially important so they don’t feel like they’re missing out on anything.